me to go shopping, since then i have been blocked mentally since then. then when ever i refuse to shop he says to me that i am making trouble. I do not know what to do. I am doing the household budgeting and i asked him what about me. i do not understand , i am confused. first he encourages me then he brings up the topic about money. how we need to watch it. i understand but do i need to have something too?
He doesn’t mind if you shop for things you need or want, but he wants you to spend wisely and not overspend on extravagant things that you do not need.
j0e
Yes you need stuff too. Maybe he wants you to go shopping but wants you to be careful and not over spend? Seems that way to me.
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what exactly is the question?
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Ask him. Not us.
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YES you do darling….If he is not buying you something all the time, just to show you he loves you….then he loves money more…..Tell him to hug a dollar bill, and kiss a quarter….
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Your question is confusing.
If you are talking about shopping for yourself and he wants you to then I think you need to include him in when you are paying the bills so he know where you 2 are financially.
If you are talking about him wanting to spend money, then the answer is still the same. He needs to know who you are doing financially.
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Sounds like to me the biggest problem is you don’t have a real budget A budget means limits.You should have this already accounted for. If he is questioning the cost then there is a leak in the budget. My budget has a rating absolutely must be paid and then needed but not necessary immediately like clothing. However if someone is buying lunch everyday and it’s not in the budget then someone is sabotaging it then wants to complain because they don’t get there blow money. If it is being spent and it is not accounted for then you do not have a true budget and that is were this complaining comes from. Most of the time it’s the one that is not doing the budget that is the real problem.
Remember this saying: When the bills come through the door the love goes out the window.
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He doesn’t mind if you shop for things you need or want, but he wants you to spend wisely and not overspend on extravagant things that you do not need.
j0e
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